Judging others

One of the questions I get most often has to do with judging others for their actions, or lack thereof. Some people enjoy judging and really could make a good living out of it if they chose to do so in the legal field, but that would take more education, more discipline and more hard work. It is far easier to just sit back in a recliner or rocker and take on the world and let everyone who will listen know what others should do about their sorry lives. I am amazed at what ticks some folks off and how little it takes to get them ranting and raving for days. Much of the time, the situation has little to do with them and they are not helping to remedy it in any way.

When we set out to judge another, let’s try to remember that we certainly do not know all that is going on in another’s life. We are most likely very ignorant of what is going on and therefore, unfit to judge. Perhaps we are expecting more than we should of a certaian person or persons. We set the bar higher for others than we do for ourselves in many cases. To judge others makes me think that we are convinced that we are far better off than they are either in knowledge or position or power. No one is better than another. We make different life choices and we pay the price for the bad ones and gain from the good ones. Perhaps our exaggerated ego is involved. When we offer judgment, we are being ungrateful for our own blessings and we are certainly not being compassionate (Jude 22).

If we are judging and casting hurtful stones (often with our words), we are in a way rejecting anyone that is different from us. If we are objective and kind, we can learn from everyone we meet. In 99 percent of the situations, when we judge unmercifully, we are not helping to create positive change. We are usually driving those who are hurting, or who have a need, further away from help, friendship, and blessing. Is that our goal? Think about it — wouldn’t we really want to be helpful and not hurtful?

“For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged, and with what measure you mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why see the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but consider not the beam that is in your own eye?” (Matthew 7:2, 3)


Brenda Cannon Henley can be reached at (409) 781-8788 or at brendacannonhenley [at] yahoo [dot] com.